• Tools and Memories

    Tools have always been a big part of my life.  First of all, there were none, or let’s just say some.  My dad was not a fixer-upper at all. He had a brother who was, and would satisfy some of my dad’s desires when requested to do so.  For example, he built bookshelves in Judy’s and my bedroom together with a corner desk.  I think my mom knew more about using tools than Dad ever did.  But then, there was no interest on his part to really do any type of fixing or building.  I believe his only desire for tools was to have some of his dad’s old tools, my grandpa Ottos. 

    Now, Grandpa Otto was altogether different than my dad.  He had the coolest log cabin tool shed in their backyard.  It smelled heavenly, and I loved it in there.  Grandpa was always puttering on something.  I think he even had a power lawnmower before they were even on the market, as he put his own together.  When I became a grown-up, I had my husband build me a log cabin shed in memory of my grandpa.  I always say wherever I go, it has to go with me.

  • Wealth Is in the Moments

    wealthAs a kid, I always knew we were rich.
    Opening presents on Christmas morning usually took over an hour — partly because Santa went a little overboard, but mostly because Lisa opens presents slower than molasses in January.

    Every Easter, we practically got a new spring wardrobe — new shorts and shirts for summer, maybe some outdoor toys, sandals, and a few nice outfits. It always felt like a seasonal upgrade — trading static-filled sweaters for flip-flops, mosquito bites, and the sweet smell of fresh-cut grass.

  • Sunday Faith, Fun, and Cleanup Duty

    SundaysWhen I was little, Sundays had a rhythm all their own. The morning always started with Sunday School—Bible stories, crafts, and songs sung a little too loudly by kids who had way too much energy. But first came the ritual of getting dressed in our Sunday best. Dresses, shoes that felt a little more special than the everyday pair—it was all part of the package.

    After church came the real highlight: coffee and donuts with family friends. Most Sundays it was at their house, where the adults lingered over mugs and conversation while we kids played. But every once in a while, the gathering was at our house.

  • Inherited Anchors

    anchorI am a creature of habit—always have been. And it’s not just how we decorate cookies or the way I fold towels (the way Mom taught me, of course). It goes deeper than that. My habits are stitched into the way I live, the things I hold onto, and the way I move through the world. Ninety percent of my home is filled with hand-me-downs: my Great Uncle’s clock, Grandma’s dining room set, Mom and Dad’s bedroom set. To most people, they’re just old things. To me, they’re anchors. They tether me to the people who shaped me, to a way of life that feels solid and familiar. I don’t keep them because they’re trendy or valuable. I keep them because they remind me who I am—and whose I am.

  • Dining with Dogs

    family dinnerWhen I was a kid and living at home, evening meals held in a formal dining room were the norm.  Things have changed drastically, wherein formal dining rooms are a thing of the past.  Everyone seems to prefer an informal way of living, such as eating at counters, in front of the TV, and in the car on the way to an event.  My mom would set the table with a cloth tablecloth, breakable dishes versus plastic, matching silverware, and to top everything off, we ate by candlelight.  This didn’t seem odd, and we enjoyed engaging in discussions of our days and events. 

  • Ocean Romance

    oceansI’ve always found the ocean completely mesmerizing. There’s something about its vastness that makes you feel small in the best possible way. My first glimpse of the sea was in 1970, shortly after we moved to Napa Valley. San Francisco was just a short drive away, and the moment I saw the Bay, I thought: This might be the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.

  • Holiday Hot Mess

    hot messThe holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, warmth, and togetherness, but let’s be real—sometimes they turn into full-blown hot messes. Between the endless to-do lists, family drama, and the pressure to make everything magical, it’s easy to feel like you’re just one burnt batch of cookies away from a breakdown.  Unfortunately, this seems to be a regular occurrence for me.

  • Resilience, Relatives and Rolling with the Punches

    resilienceAh, the holidays. A time for twinkling lights, delicious feasts, and… navigating the emotional minefield of family gatherings. Add in the inevitable challenges—burnt turkey, last-minute gift shopping, and Uncle Bob’s annual political rant—and you’ve got the perfect storm for testing your resilience.

    But resilience isn’t just about surviving the holidays with your sanity (mostly) intact. It’s about showing up when it matters most—especially during the hardest moments, like the loss of a loved one. When grief collides with the season of joy, resilience is what carries us through.

  • Letting Go of the To-Do List

    The holidays are supposed to be a time filled with joy, love and celebration.  But for some people, it can be a very challenging and stressful time of the year.  Somewhere between endless lsit of things to do: house cleaning, picking out the tree, decorate the house (inside and out), buy gifts, wrap gifts, bake cookies, and work full-time, we are supposed to find time to enjoy the holidays.