• Enthusiasm Without the Fireworks

    enthusiasmSome people seem to have a bottomless supply of enthusiasm. They throw themselves into everything — from book clubs to bake sales — with the same wide-eyed excitement a kid has for an ice cream truck. I’ve never been one of those people. My enthusiasm runs on the quieter side. I can enjoy something, appreciate it, even love it, without feeling the need to clap until my hands sting or yell “Wooo!” loud enough for the neighbors to hear.

    Take the Origami Owl conventions I used to attend. Every year, they’d introduce a few new $5 charms, like a red high heel, a little purse, or a pumpkin, and the room would explode in applause. Women would leap to their feet, squeal, and “ooh” like they’d just been handed the keys to a beach house. The enthusiasm in the room was contagious — at least for some people. I’d sit there smiling politely, thinking, We’re cheering over that? Don’t get me wrong — the charm was cute. But it wasn’t life-changing. I guess my enthusiasm scale for “worth freaking out over” just sits a few notches higher.

  • Growth in Progress (Kind of)

    growthI’m 15 years old and I’m begrudgingly awake for the day trying to get ready for school. “Mommmmmmm…. What should I wear today?”  I could never make this decision easily.  She enters my room while I’m dozing against the doorframe of my closet.  “How about this?” as she pulls out a sweater.  “Nah – I don’t want to wear that!” I sneer.  “Ok – fine.  What about this one?” as she picks out a different shirt.  “Nah – not that one either.” I again reply.  “If you don’t like my suggestions, why did you ask me?” she queries.  “Well – now I know what I DON’T want to wear!” I bantered.  Mom then left my room, shaking her head.

  • Managing Expectations

    ExpectationsI’ve heard many opinions about the habit of having expectations—some directed inward, others projected onto those around us. I find it more productive to focus on what I expect of myself. After all, I’m the only one I can truly control.

    Expecting others to behave a certain way often leads to disappointment, unless we’re clear about what we need and willing to accept the outcome, whether or not it aligns with our hopes. Managing those external expectations means making conscious choices about how much we let others’ actions affect us.