After having a death in my family, my husband of sixty-two years, I have discovered several ways to be resilient.  It is traumatic enough, but having family and friends engulf you helps you to recover more quickly from a hardship or traumatic event.  Another way would be to get out of the house and do an activity that has been put on the back burner.  Such activity could be anywhere from lunches with old friends, movies, or getting together with those we have shoved away due to heavy schedules.