Retirement Reality

Retirement RealityMy aha moment came many weeks, months, after my retirement last year.  I realized it after 56 years of working as a paralegal/legal secretary for the same firm my boss retired and the office closed. It is hard to break old habits, like cleaning at night and on weekends, never having any free time without feeling guilty, and being able to have some free time for myself.  My aha moment came when one day many months later I realized, while I was on a road trip with a friend, that I didn’t have any real-time constraints other than my family needing me to come back for things such as cleaning, cooking, driving grandkids around, you know, the usual.  We were driving along and I thought aha, I am on my own at this moment and don’t have to go to work. No one was expecting me to get out a will, do divorce papers, real estate documents, correspondence, and the list goes on.  

First of all, I felt I am too young to retire.  I am 75 years old. I am in good health, good mind on most days, and energetic.  I love to see and greet people, and I really liked my job as a paralegal. So, to just up and stop what I had been doing all this time was, to say the least interesting, relaxing, and confusing all at the same time…  

Retirement is great, even though I really haven’t figured it out yet.  The process put me behind doing all those things you say you want to do when you have time, but no time to do them.  The truth, I believe, we never really wanted to do them in the first place. These projects include updating my paperwork, organizing my house, getting our reno cabin items painted, etc. But, with time I am getting it. (How to piss away a day). It is also winter and actually that is good. It keeps me focused in fewer places than my love of the outside in the summer.

Whenever I see an ad for a legal secretary or something in that field, I think, “Maybe I should try out for that”.  That’s when my aha moment hits me again. I am retired and should be doing other things that I never could do before for lack of time.  I find that I still clean at night as that is what you do when you work and have not got on any schedule which I am told I am supposed to do.  Did I mention that I hate schedules? That was the hardest part of working, having to do things on a schedule. I sure accomplished a lot of things on that schedule. Now I basically can do what I want and if I want. At the present time, I am not doing too well at accomplishing what I feel I need to get done.  

Anyways, my aha moment is a life-altering transition from one busy schedule to just another.  Also, for me, I feel the mind is 30, but the body is 80. My aha moment of retirement is a (life-changing event) and is still in the process of being figured out.  

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Will You Marry Me?

My Best ComplimentWhat is a compliment?

This can come in many ways. It could be when you were asked to prom, homecoming, or more exciting a marriage proposal.

I think my best compliment was my wedding proposal. Even though, in my case, it was when we were very young, but, guess what it is still working. Sometimes I don’t know how, but it is still in the working. I often kid that I need a medal, but, in fact, we both probably do. We have figured how to make this union work.

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Love or Hate Cell Phones

smashed cellWho has a love/hate relationship with their cell phones?

Well, first of all, I hate the cost of these stupid things. My gosh my rent used to be $65.00 per month.  I know, that was in the dark ages! Now to get an updated phone that does lots of things, costs ten times that per month. You’ve got to be kidding!!!!

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Stupid Jokes – I can never remember them anyway!

bitmoji-20191022081812Stupid Jokes – I can never remember them anyway!

O.K. there are a lot of jokes out there that are funny I must admit. I happen to have a significant other, a/k/a husband, who loves to tell jokes. How he remembers so many is beyond me. I hear a joke which I actually feel I should share and, of course, I can’t remember the stupid joke.

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Cooking is a Waste of Time

Can't we just invent a meal pill instead of cooking__I dislike cooking. I find cooking, on average, a waste of time. First of all, you have to decide what to make, then you have to go to the store. Another thing I dislike to do and purchase the ingredients Then you spend hours making your delicacy, it takes ten minutes to eat it, and then, guess what, you get to clean the mess up. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy cooking when the house is clean and everything is done, and I am cooking for a get together of family and/or friends. The key here, everything else needs to be done.

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Hey! Get Me an Old Fashion!

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My favorite drink: Alcoholic that is.

I guess I would have to say the this would be an “Old Fashion”.  I say this because it has come to be a kind of old friend so to speak. When I came of age, (I don’t like beer) I tried what my Mom always ordered. A Bacardi.  Then I thought I should be drinking what my friend liked.  Manhattans.

Well, after a couple of years of being totally wiped on only one or two of those (most likely one), I realized that I didn’t really care for them. Anyway, an Old Fashion was presented to me. It had a good taste of booze, I like them rather sweet, and that is where I am at the present time. Margaritas come in second. When you are out of state you don’t even think of asking for an Old Fashion because they are made with brandy, not a staple in other states.

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Practice What You Preach

I feel I definitely practice what I preach most of the time.  For years and years, I’ve said I wanted a cottage on a lake.  Now, it wasn’t just any lake, or just any area, but I wanted it to be on South Lake Michigan Drive in Door County, WI, on Lake Michigan.

I always knew I was going to do this.  We didn’t know how, didn’t know when, but it was going to happen.  It had to.  I put pictures up at work, constantly looked at availability of properties and there was nothing…  especially in our price range.

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Gratitude List – Sandy

inspiring-positive-lifestyle-quotes-happiness-isnt-about-getting-what-you-want-all-the-time.-its-about-loving-what-you-have-Well, it is a day before Thanksgiving and as well as being thankful, I am grateful as well  for so many things.

I have a wonderful family and I love and know they love me (most of the time that is). That is something to be thankful and grateful to start with.   I feel I ponder on the past and present and know that I have been so lucky in so many areas. I think the hardest thing I had to overcome was the lack of my self-confidence and assurance that I am worth what I have earned and achieved.

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Biggest Pet Peeve – Sandy

2018-10-21_12-40-06One of my pet peeves is when people say, “Hi, how are you?”, and really don’t care or want to hear about you anyway.

Pet Peeve #2:  Husbands with toys. Why is it they complain about your “stuff” sitting around or hanging on walls, but feel there is nothing wrong with their things, such as trailers,  sitting out in the driveway 24/7?

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Conquering Fear – Sandy

thIn the day it was felt that if you didn’t meet all of your dreams, goals, were in your job of your dreams, be successful (whatever that meant” where you wanted to be at the ripe old age of thirty, you were, I guess, “A Failure”. That was for a rather short period of time on my part as I just couldn’t accept that. My Dad changed jobs in his fifties and wished he had done it long before that. So, I decided screw that Idea, just keep forging on and as long as you are happy that is success.


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